Oh what pain we can create when we resist change! 

To make the learning of this lesson as sensory as possible, I invite you to participate in a small experiment.  For the duration of reading this lesson, I ask you to make a fist and hold it as tight as you can.  Do that now.  Notice where you begin to feel pain.  For me, I first feel my fingernails digging into my palm followed by pain in the knuckles.  You’re going to feel it in your own way.  Even as you feel the pain, keep holding your fist as tightly as you can.

Now, place your attention on what you’re reading and let’s keep going.  Your awareness of the pain will soon shift off of it and onto what you are reading.  Keep holding your fist until I tell you to let go.

We’ve already learned that everything is in a constant state of change so the more you resist change, the more pain you create.  Resistance, by the way, is a subtle form of the ‘gobbler’ attack-and-consume vibration that you learned about in an earlier lesson.  The degree of pain you feel in your emotional being is directly proportional to the degree of the ‘gobbler’ attack-and-consume vibration you put into play.

If you are trying to hold onto an outdated Social Face, ie: an outdated concept of who you are based upon social conditioning, you’ll create pain for yourself.  If you try to control another person and they don’t behave according to your expectations, you’ll create pain.  If the social structure around you is changing - this can be family, political, work related, church related, any group of people making up a social structure of some form - and you resist that change, what will you create?  You got it: pain.

Why?  Because you’re trying to hold on to something that is  already in the past in an ever changing Universe. 

Keep holding your fist tight.  You probably aren’t feeling the pain as before because you’re getting used to it, even if the contraction might be spreading up your arm.

This resistance creates density which creates more pain.  This is true for your physical being as well as your emotional being.  One thing always leads to another.

You might notice that in all of the exercises, you have been guided not to resist a situation nor push against it, which is a direct form of resistance.  Rather, you’ve been taught to redirect the energy by activating the vibration of Divine Light.

One of the most powerful things you can do to release pain in your emotional world, as well as your physical world, is to forgive.  Forgiveness is powerful because it releases resistance on the deepest of levels and creates space in your heart for the vibration of Divine Love to flow.  If you want a visual image of this, think of your heart as the faucet through which Divine Love flows.  If a faucet is blocked, it limits the amount of water that can flow through it.  The same thing applies to the flow of Divine Love through your heart center.  Also, you learned at the very beginning of these lessons that the more you live from your heart space, the more you awaken to the Divinity of who you really are, beyond all the social conditioning.  Without forgiveness, you will continue to hold density in your Being.  That includes your physical as well as your emotional and intellectual bodies.

Keep holding your fist tight, even if you feel energy building up.

So, it only stands to reason that forgiveness is the intelligent thing to do... despite the resistance you might feel towards forgiving that which you need to forgive.  Oh, there’s that resistance thing again!  When you forgive, it doesn’t mean you have to forget.  It simply means you will no longer let the person or situation own you and imprison you in its density.

There are a few things to keep in mind at this point:

1. •You wouldn’t need to forgive if you hadn’t had an expectation that was off the mark in the first place and/or...
   

2. •You wouldn’t need to forgive if you were living totally in the conscious awareness of Divine Light being equally everywhere present in all things, including all people and/or...
   

3. •Forgiveness is a two way street.  There are always at least two people to forgive in the process of forgiveness:  the other person for not having lived up to your expectation as well as yourself for either A) having had the off base expectation, B) having not communicated yourself clearly enough for them to have understood where you were coming from and/or C) that the people involved were operating from an unenlightened state.
   

4. •If they can come to forgive you, as well, then you’re both home free.  If they can’t because they just aren’t there, yet, in their awakening process, then so be it.  You can’t change others, only yourself.  Let it go and send them Divine Light from your heart of hearts to theirs.  They’ll come around sooner or later.  At some point, it will probably be in your best interest, and theirs, to ask for their forgiveness.  Wait until you have completed your own inner work, though.  If you ask for their forgiveness before you have given it to yourself, you’re still in a bit of the ‘gobbler’ mode. 
   

5. •If you say you forgive someone, but you’re still hanging on to some anger or bitterness, then you haven’t forgiven at all; you’ve only given lip service to the concept.  As you have well learned by now, words don’t count for much if they don’t have the real intention behind them to give them substance.  It’s better to wait until you have done your own inner releasing and say it from your heart of hearts.
   

I remember the time when I first thought about forgiveness in a very real way as an adult.  I hadn’t realized there was something to forgive until I went into my heart and discovered that I had been holding anger towards my father.  A lot of it was old anger that had culminated in one particular incident that I don’t need to go into since we all have experienced something with someone that created anger in our hearts.  Hey, welcome to planet Earth and the human experience.

I had just read in the Christian Bible that you needed to forgive seven times seventy times.  So, I pulled out a calculator and figured out this meant I needed to forgive him 490 times.  “Okay,” I thought, “If that’s what it’s going to take, then that’s what I’ll do.”  This was before I had learned how to put the alchemy of the vibration of Divine Love into motion so I took the long road home.  I pulled out a piece of paper and put it into the typewriter.  (Wow, things have changed in our time, haven’t they?).  I began to type the words, “I forgive my father completely... I forgive my father completely... I forgive my father completely...”  Somewhere around number forty, I felt something shift inside and I kept going.  As I did, individual incidents came into mind and I kept typing, applying the words to that particular incident until I felt it melt away.  Then, another and another came to mind and I continued the process.  By the time I got to the number 400, my shirt was wet from all the tears I had shed from the release of having held all that tension in my Being.  Afterwards, our relationship went through some changes for the better and, from a social point of view, everything was fine.  There was still one basic thing I was still holding onto, though.

It wasn’t until he was on his death bed that I finally came out of my ‘spiritual closet’ and prayed with him my way.  It was then, and only then, I finally finished the forgiveness towards myself for being what I had thought was ‘different’ and had labeled to myself as being ‘bad’.  It was then that I found I was ready to ask with a clear heart, “Do you forgive me for having held against you your way of trying to teach me?”  He was physically unable to speak intelligible words at that point in his transition process so he patted my hand and, in that moment, I knew the circle was completed.  If the one you need to forgive has already made their transition out of the human body, you can still have this conversation on a consciousness level in meditation.  It is still just as powerful if you are willing to receive that forgiveness because you have already forgiven yourself.

Okay, we’re coming up to the time to let go of your fist.  BUT, before you do, I ask you to place your attention back on your fist. Notice how the pain has changed in this short time.  Perhaps you had forgotten about it for a while and numbed yourself down to it.  Notice how the pain has also changed in nature and has spread into other areas than just the ones you noticed when you first made the fist. 

Now, open your hand in one big ‘go’ and see where it opens up to. 

Did you let out a big, “Aaaagh!”  You’re probably feeling a big sense of pain in another way.  This is the pain of release that you are feeling as the tissue of your hand accustoms itself to a new way of being.  Notice how, if you concentrate on the pain of letting go, you have a tendency to hold the pain or pull your hand back to a semi open position where it feels relief from the pain of letting go.  If you relax into it, the pain will recede and your hand will naturally continue to open up until it returns to the flexibility it had before.  Add on the thought that you are allowing the vibration of Divine Light to flow through your hand - do that now with the intention of allowing it to work - and observe the small changes that occur.  At some point, you’ll probably want to stretch your hand to give more space for relaxation to reside in it.

This exercise with your fist is a good metaphor for two things:

1. 1.What you do to yourself when you hold in unexpressed emotions. The tension gets bottled up in your psyche just like the tension got bottled up in your hand.  
   

2. 2.Then, it  represents the pain our physical and emotional bodies go through when you let go of the bottled up emotions and are no longer resisting the flow of life in and around you. 
   

I encourage you to discern between the dense pain of holding on and the sweet pain of release and expansion.  The more you can relax into that sweet pain of release and expansion, the faster the process finishes and the faster you move into a conscious awareness of Divine Love in your life.

EXERCISE:

1. 1.Acknowledge someone with whom you want forgiveness to flow between you.  Take this into meditation.  Begin with the Basic Activation the Divine Light Vibration.  (Also in podcast format). Fill yourself with the conscious Awareness of Divine Light all throughout your body.  Allow this Divine Light to flow from your heart to the other person.  Declare, “The Divine in me releases (  name of the person  ) to the Light.”  Then rest in that thought until you feel something happen; it usually will feel like a kind of softening, but each person is different so trust in your process.  Then, declare, “The Divine in (   name of the person   ) releases me to the Light.  Only Divine Light is here and only Divine Love came come between us.”  Rest in that until you feel the softening between you.   If you are new to this, perhaps you will will feel the softening only intellectually in the form of having less head chatter going on about that person.  Again, trust the process and let the Light to the work.   Soon, you will be able to recognize the alchemy of transformation on many levels. This technique will be effective in direct proportion to your willingness for it to be effective.  No more, no less.
   

2. 2.Acknowledge a situation which causes you pain.  Take it into meditation.  Fill yourself with the conscious awareness of Divine Light all throughout your body.  Allow this Divine Light to flow outwards and surround the situation or circumstances which is causing you pain.  Declare, “The Divine in me releases any resistance I am feeling to Divine Light for transformation into illumination.”  Then allow the alchemy of transformation to be set in motion.  Next, let this Divine Light from your heart center flow outwards and surround all the people, and all the circumstances, involved in the situation.  Declare, “Let all things and all people move in the direction of the highest good for each individual and for all involved.”  Then, let it go and allow the transformational attributes of the vibration of Divine Light do the work.  Remember to be patient... and recognize that, most likely, it is you who will be doing the most changing to begin with, at least from your point of view.